Be Kind to Yourself

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Y’all know the expression “we are our own worst critics?”

I’m struggling with that one lately.

I’ve been working with my business coach this year because I need to jump the business income up in a big way so that I can hire someone. We’ve worked through my vision statement, purpose statement and core values and now we’ve moved on to setting goals.

Not my big goals for 2017, but the smaller 30-day and 90-day goals that move me toward my overall vision. We’ve also been reviewing using the two-hour solution to plan my week in such a way that I’m incorporating my goals into my calendar.


Lately, I’ve been struggling with staying on task with my calendar. And I’m not going to lie, I’ve been pretty hard on myself because I don’t feel like I’m doing a very good job. This week on the phone with my coach, I was expressing that I wasn’t very happy with my inability to complete certain tasks within my allotted amount of time.

This week on the phone with my coach, I was expressing that I felt my biggest struggle was the inability to complete certain tasks within my allotted amount of time. I’d find myself working on something long past when my calendar said it should be done.

And he shared with me  his four favorite words:

Be kind to yourself.

He’s right. I’m implementing new systems into the way I schedule my day with specific goals in mind, and I can’t expect to get it right in the first two weeks…even if I’ve been using the two-hour solution before we started working together.

Is this something we all struggle with – being too hard on ourselves?

I believe in holding myself accountable for my actions.

And yet, I can’t beat myself up. At the same time, I don’t want to give myself so much grace that I’m allowing myself to slack off.

I guess this is the reason that I hired my coach, to help me distinguish where that line is – when to be kind to myself and when to tell myself to stop slacking.

In any event, as I’m looking forward to next week, I see no reason to be throwing shade on myself. I have a serious list of sales leads that I expect to wrap up, and who doesn’t like to start the week by making money?

This is the time to give myself more grace and focus on what’s going right. My business is growing, and I’m doing good work.

How do you practice giving yourself grace? What’s going right in your life at the moment? What are your wins?

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